Blocks to Joy = Blocks to Health

The loss of access to the embodiment of joy and pleasure are key root causes that I see in my clients, who are experiencing chronic illness. They are lacking the feeling of being fully ALIVE!

We must ask what stories (limiting beliefs) and unprocessed emotions are blocking joy and the pleasures of life? It is important to know that we don't need to know or revisit any or all the details of the traumas to heal from them.

What you need to know to heal will be shown to you in some form or another about what is stored in the subconscious, the energy field and in the body. The key to healing is feeling what is stored in the body and listening for what messages arise about the stories attached to those feelings.

I always find shame and guilt are the major blockers of our joie de vivre and I believe they are the deeper root causes of most, if not all chronic health conditions (in addition to physical toxins - which we do hold onto more tightly if we have these unresolved subconscious programs running blocking the flow of energy).

Shane and guilt anesthetize and numb us from accessing amd feeling all other emotions fully, such as fear, sadness/grief, and anger. When we cannot fully be with and process those emotions, we also become numb to the more pleasant emotional states such as peace, love, joy and bliss!

Fully feeling our uncomfortable emotions (not making them bad or wrong) creates space for the more pleasant ones, so if we are not feeling them because they are wrapped up in shame and guilt, we are continuing to build up more and more emotional density in our energy fields and bodies.

Without fail I also find stories (beliefs) about needing to please others at one’s own expense to feel loved/safe/worthy/valued, feeling unsafe to be authentic, and believing on a deep level there is something bad, defective and wrong about us. If we are holding those types of programs in our subconscious it is nearly impossible to feel joyful a lot of the time!

When we were programmed in childhood to feel we are inherently bad and wrong, and we therefore believe that we must hide parts of ourselves to feel safer (to survive), it is also always accompanied by chronic stress/fear (lack of safety) and repressed anger, resentment and often rage.

This shame and guilt leaves us feeling disconnected more and more from our Creator and therefore to the very essence of who we are - a Soul - a beautiful, pure, divinely innocent spark of the Divine.

Reopening those joy and pleasure pathways requires us to reconnect with those exiled parts in our subconscious and help them understand that even though the experiences that created the programming were very real and painful, the stories about us being bad/wrong are NEVER true.

No matter what mistakes we've made in our lives. No matter what we've done, or what was done to us - we are always unconditionally loved by our Creator - Divine Mother and Father, of which we are the Divine Child.

Understanding this helps us not only forgive ourselves but also those who've wronged us. But first we must feel our pain, and not bypass it. I truly believe we can only forgive once the pain and the beliefs attached to the wound have been processed completely, which allows a natural feeling of neutral acceptance of what has occured - it feels like a distant memory without a physical or emotional reaction.

This process can not and should not be rushed because there can be many layers to these traumas, and we must respect the younger versions of ourselves who are holding on tightly for good reasons.

Bit by bit, as we reprogram these beliefs about ourselves and allow the emotions to be felt, we can start to access more and more joy and pleasure as we reclaim our relationship to ourselves, our relationship with others and then we see the blossoming of our health as a result.

I believe that one of the reasons why the state of our relationships (of all kinds) is the number 1 predictor of our health is because it comes back to our ability or inability to experience states of joy in connection with others (and a feeling of safety that comes from a sense of community/tribe as well).

"Across more than eight decades, the clearest and most consistent finding from the Harvard Study of Adult Development is this: the quality of our relationships—emotional warmth, trust, and support—is the single most important predictor of long-term happiness and health. It’s not how many people we know, but how safe and truly connected we feel." Read the entire article HERE.

Chronic people pleasers or people who are carrying heavy shame and guilt have a lot of difficulty enjoying their relationships because of their unresolved relational trauma and lack of safety with other people.

These people aren't much fun to be around either because they tend to be more serious, depressed, anxious, negative and always feeling badly about themselves, others, or the state of the world. I know this pattern well myself, so there is zero judgement, only compassion!

Being out of alignment with Soul in this way creates energetic congestion in the body and therefore dis-ease in the body. Living our passions, in alignment with our Soul, requires us to feel connected to that part of us that is inherently joyful and blissful. It requires us to clear those clouds that are getting in the way of who we truly are!

So, to put it very simply, I see that the healing journey is truly all about reclaiming our dignity by integrating the lies that say there was something wrong with us, and as a result of doing that work, regaining access to the joy and pleasure that naturally streams through to us from our Creator.

Then, and only then, through doing our Soul work, do we experience the long term health and happiness we long for, that could never come from only doing biohacking techniques, diets, supplements or other purely physical-based treatments. The long term solution is always in coming back to our Soul and our Creator.

With love,

Melissa